For the Struggling Mom

“You are NOT alone. You are NOT a bad mother.” This is for you if you feel like you’re a struggling mom.

A baby boy will grow up without his mother, a husband without his wife because a new mom didn’t feel like she was good enough.

Florence Leung’s husband is speaking out about his wife’s battle with PPD.

“For all the new moms experiencing low mood or anxiety, please seek help and talk about your feelings. You are Not alone. You are Not a bad mother.”

Women feel so much pressure to be perfect. This pressure is magnified when a woman becomes a mother. Mere questions, feel like attacks…

“Tell me about your birth story!”
“How much weight did you gain?”
“Are you breastfeeding? Breast is best!”
“Are you cosleeping?”
“Have you started solids?”

To one person it’s conversation, to another, someone who is disappointed with how things went, someone who’s sad about who she’s become as a mother, each question is a small dagger to the dream of who they thought they’d be.

So, struggling moms, I need you to stop right now.

I need you to take a big, deep breath.

Now, one more.

Seriously, take those deep breaths.

Everything will be okay.

Say it with me, everything will be okay.

You probably don’t think that’s true, but it is.

Do you feel like a struggling mom?

This is not you and it’s not your forever.

Depression and anxiety can take over your life. It consumes you. It sucks you in so you can’t see anything else.

What sucks about depression and anxiety is you often don’t realize how bad it has become, until you’re out.

But how do you get out?

You talk, you share, you shake off the fog. Shake off the guilt. Shake off the feeling of inadequacy.

Because it’s okay.

You’re okay.

Whether you’re breastfeeding, formula feeding, co-sleeping, sleep training, getting out, staying in, pacifying, crying it out… whatever it is you’re doing…

It’s perfect.

Because only YOU are the perfect mom for your little one.

I hope you’ve enjoyed reading my struggling mom post! Check out my moming blog section for discussions on other amazing topics that are very important to me.

Written by Alex Turner